Work on The Similarities

What is it that makes you attracted to someone? The look? The character? The way he or she makes you laugh? Well, that is a few possibilities. Now let me ask you another question. What is it that you feel that makes a couple go on a date together, dates after dates? Think about it. Remember they have a choice of saying no to a date. Very simple, there is something of similar liking between the both of them, something which both enjoy doing together, over and over again.

Ask yourself this question, would you go on a date with someone whom doesn’t enjoy dining, watching movies, coffee at café etc. Not a thing at all of what you enjoy doing? For a couples to remain together, there has got to be something similar between both. Similar liking, interest, characteristic etc. The more the similarities there is between the both of you, the better the chances of a development of a further relationship there will be.

What are the similarities between both that you can work on? First of all, the physical appearance of course. Your physical appearance is the very first thing that catches a person’s eyes, the eyes of that special someone. Take note of the type of dressing style he or she likes? How is he or she normally dressed? A trendy and hip? Casual and sporty? Smart casual? Try to dress so, dress in the style he or she would like. Think about it, if you were someone who is very concern with the neatness and cleanliness of your physical appearance, would you like someone who is always so shabbily dressed? Naturally, a person would tend to enjoy the company of another who generally dresses similar to that of him or herself. Don’t you find it so within your usual group of click?

Next would be the hobbies and interest. What sports does he or she like? Does she play the piano? What type of movies does he or she enjoy watching? Does she love animals, dogs? Does he love fishing? What flowers does she like? Hmm… knowing his or her habits will be good too. Where does he or she normally hang out? Does she hate crowded places? How many cubes of sugar she like for her coffee? Does he hate shopping? Well in simple, find out anything possible under the sun about him or her. Not a clue where to start? Friends would be a good source to start with.

Ok guys, now that you know what she likes, it is time to plan for a little nice and enjoyable date with her. It is afterall still a guy’s job to ask the girl out, right? Notice I used the word “enjoyable” instead of a nice and “romantic” date? Well, a date involves two persons. To allow the chance for a further development of a relationship, the chance for a next date, you have got to make her enjoy the date, enjoy the time spent with you.

Take her to places that she likes, serve her food that she enjoys eating. “Oh medium cooked for the lady please” Present her with flowers that she likes. She will be so surprised and impressed by you. “Oh Rick, how do you know that I love Pink Tulips? It’s so sweet of you” Plan activities that she has always enjoyed. Watching a movie that she likes at her favorite cinema? Bringing her to her favorite musical, “Phantom of The Opera”?
Ha as usual, me and my ideas again. Well, I know you can definitely plan for yourself a more perfect enjoyable date. In simple, create a familiar environment for her, a date that she will feel comfortable. Naturally, she will enjoy herself, enjoy going out with you, having your company, developing a further liking for you.

Creating The Perfect Atmosphere

Had you ever been in the situation where your heart suddenly beats so fast, losing your ability to think, having the sudden loss for words when seeing someone you admired? At that very moment, you were like frozen in time, lost into another world, a world so wonderful, so heavenly? Hmm… How is my description? Ha whatever, the fact is that at that very moment, you were totally defenseless. So defenseless that anything could have just hit you. An arrow? An arrow of love? Get what I mean?

Ok, let me share with you an experience of mine, a memory of my college days. Those were the days when we would always hang out in a big group, a group of both guys and girls, partying and having fun together. There was this fine evening that we gathered at a friend’s place for a little party, followed by some games of Black Jack during the later evening. We were sited in one big circle in this nice and cozy room. Sitting beside me was this girl, a very beautiful girl I must admit. But well, it had never cross my mind of a relationship further than that of a friend with her. There just wasn’t any chemistry between us. Then came an ace for me! Before I realize anything, this girl beside me suddenly just came in so close on me. I know she was just been excited and curious on whether I would get my Jack. But at this very moment, her knee was on my lap, shoulder right in front of my chest. We were suddenly just so close; I could feel the beautiful fragrance from her soft silky hair. My heart was suddenly pounding so fast, gasping for breath. I was totally at loss, for that very moment, she got me! That chemistry, that frequency, which had never happened between us suddenly just flowed through me so relentlessly. Just imagine, if she were to give me a peck on my cheek out of excitement if I got a Black Jack. Ha well, that of course did not happen and neither did I get my jack.

Get the picture now? This is a very natural human psychological reaction. When one is in the stage experiencing that sudden increase in the heartbeat, undergoing a sudden feeling of excitement, he tends to get confused, unknowingly developing that feeling of liking for that someone beside him, especially when the person is of the opposite sex. An opposite sex of, whom he does not have any bad impression. Not to mention an opposite sex of whom he has a good impression of?

Ha! I know what is on your mind now. But well, there is nothing wrong, why not? Go create that perfect atmosphere; an atmosphere that would make one’s heart beats faster. An atmosphere that would make the sudden chemistry of love flowing between both of you. A roller coaster ride? A haunted house adventure? Having a good laugh together after the rides? A little nice chatting session over the coffee table after a game of his favorite sports, tennis? Singing her a love song with your guitar in front of everyone?

Think about it, you plan yours. Take it slowly; build up that chemistry of love between both of you. You are definitely on the right track.