Signs That He Is Not The One

After enduring weeks of single girl sympathy, you finally agreed to let your cousin set you up with that “great guy” she knows. Since you said yes, you figure you might as well make the most of it and keep an open mind. But, just in case, you ask your best friend to call your cell about a half hour into the date so you can fake an emergency if needed.

Actually, it’s not even faking. Bad dates are emergencies. However, lucky for you, there are warning signs that the person you are out with is, and always will be, a terrible date. If you are unlucky enough to experience any of them first hand, make sure to answer your friend’s call saying, “Oh no! That’s terrible! I’ll be right over.”

He’s Late

This one is pretty basic. If a guy doesn’t have enough enthusiasm
for the date to actually show up on time, you shouldn’t expect to
be impressed by the rest of the night. Obviously, there are times
when you just can’t help it, but he’d better have a good reason if
he shows up at your door
even 15 minutes late.

He’s Not Dressed to Impress

You’ve spent hours on your hair and a pile of rejected clothes covers your bed. You are finally dressed to the nines in the perfect outfit and ready for the evening. You open the door and are surprised to be greeted by your date in torn jeans and a stained t-shirt. You doubt he’s washed his hair today (or yesterday). You expected a nice night out and he shows up looking like he’s dressed for a monster truck rally.

He Takes you to a Monster Truck Rally

Original and unique first dates are a great way to stand out from the rest of the fish in the sea, but there are exceptions. He should at least do a little research into your style before he plans an unusual activity. Sure, he might really love hot dogs and monster trucks, but if you were thinking fine dining and theatre, there’s bound to be trouble.

The fact that he didn’t bother to ask your opinion beforehand (or at least get the matchmaker’s thoughts on the plan) doesn’t bode well for how he’s going to respect your needs and wants in the future.

He Expects You to Pay

It’s not absolutely necessary that he pick up the check. Along with all those useful freedoms like voting, the feminist movement also brought us the responsibility of at least offering to pay for half the date. Most guys still think it’s chivalrous to pick up the tab for the first date and there’s nothing wrong with indulging his male ego (after an appropriate amount of protesting of course).

No girl is expecting a man to drop a fortune on a first date, but a guy who expects you to pay for everything without lifting a finger to open his own wallet doesn’t give off the impression that he cares much what you think of him. In fact, he probably won’t see a second date (and maybe not even the end of the first one). A good rule of thumb for payment is: whoever asks for the date, pays for the date.

He Talks About his Ex

So maybe you escaped the monster truck rally, but instead of choking on exhaust fumes and standing in a sea of drunken mullets, you get to hear all about his wonderful or horrible ex-girlfriend. Bonus trouble points if he had a nasty breakup and insists on sharing the details with you.

If he refers to his ex even once with a derogatory insult that you wouldn’t call your worst enemy, run for the hills now. It’s not a good sign if he can’t say anything nice about the last woman with whom he had a significant relationship.

How Can I Put This.? He’s a Weirdo.

Yes, it’s time to weed out those with personal quirks that you find distasteful or generally unacceptable. This will be different for every woman of course (some chicks really dig witchcraft, guys that live with their moms or Dungeons and Dragons enthusiasts). Regardless, that tight knot that is forming in your stomach while you listen to his ideas, habits and activities, should not be ignored.

Awkward Moments vs. Awkward Hours

When he’s not filling you in on his wacky life, the conversation stalls into silence or unintelligible grunting. It’s normal to have a little awkwardness or difficulty getting conversation to flow in the beginning of a first date, but if after a few minutes, he still can’t think of a single question to ask about your life or keep up with the conversation, it’s time to call it a night.

If it’s twenty minutes in and you’ve run out of things to talk about, you probably don’t have much of a future together.

How To Tell If He Likes You

(and if he's flirting with you in his special own guy-way).

A lot depends on the type of guy and his individual personality.

Shy Guys
These are tough to crack sometimes...

♠ He'll look at you, until you turn around, then boom, he's looking the other way.
♠ You may 'feel' like he's watching you - but he's hard to catch at it
♠ He may do something physical - like grab you in a play way, poke you, play with your hair... (Remember when you were really young and the guy you liked punched you or tackled you?)
♠ He may be working really hard to pay attention to you, but doesn't quite know how...
♠ He may ask a friend of yours about you - he'll say it's just for "friend of mine" that wants to know about you.
♠ He talks to everybody else - but when you're around he turns silent, or chokes up.
♠ You seem to accidentally bump into him a lot of different places.
♠ He may not say a word to you, but he shows up in the same line, at the same movie, etc.
♠ He'll give you a little smile from across the room, but if you get near, he won't look up.
♠ Basically - the BIG clue is that his behavior changes when you're around (compared to when he's around his buds or other girls).
♠ DEAD Giveaway - when you talk to him he turns red.
(Bingo - you can pack that puppy up and take him home...)

Top 4 Cheap Ways to Show Him You Care

You don't have to be a baller or have an affinity for bling to show your man you care. If your special someone is on your mind, don't wait for his birthday or an anniversary. Give him these cheap gifts and score enough points to last you a lifetime.

1. Handwritten Letter

The art of the handwritten letter is long gone. In the age of convenience and instant lazy access, writing a letter with an actual pen on paper is the most sincere way to show you care. He'll be impressed that you took the time to write (especially when you could have easily sent him an email). Want to sweeten the deal? Spray it with your favorite cologne and drop it in the mail. Chances are he only gets bills and junk in his box, so your good-smelling letter will be a pleasant surprise.

2. Single Exotic Flower

You don't have to wait for a special day or reason to give flowers. Flowers make any day special. Steer clear of the cheesy rose, though; and don't get him a dozen. Keep the mystery alive by choosing a single exotic flower. The more rare and beautiful, the better. Keep it in the flower shop paper and give it to him in a nonchalant manner (as if it's your first date). He may not respond to the gesture like a game show winner while you're around, but he'll tell his friends how sweet you are later.

3. Video Phone Message

Most newer cell phones are equipped with a video camera. Instead of filming endless reels of your puppy running in circles, be your own star. Record a private message just for him. Let your imagination be the creative director. Most wireless services charge to use this feature, but spending a few extra cents can get you cast in his own personal sequel.

4. Mixed CD

I've always been a fan of the mixed playlist. They're a great way to communicate any message. Why argue, say you're sorry or "I love you" when a CD can do it for you? Your compilation can be about sappy love, wild fun times or a tribute to Al Green. Who cares? He'll appreciate getting a good gift that keeps on giving. Want to save even more money? Get the blank CD from a friend.